I Love You, Please Shut Up

09 Aug

I am an introvert, and a pretty major one at that. I suppose I’ve always sort of known this, but it wasn’t until I read a few articles linked over at Epbot that I went, “DUH.” I am a classic introvert. Depending on how I’m feeling I can be fairly good or really bad at faking extroversion, but I really wish people would just learn to let me have some quiet time on my own for a while.

It’s not that I don’t like you; I may in fact love you very much. But the constant talking and noise and activity feel like a physical assault to me, and result in either total shutdown or an anxiety attack. Either way, there’s an overwhelming need to ESCAPE to somewhere calm enough to hear myself think.

Anyway, I highly recommend that you read these articles, whether you’re an extrovert, introvert, or have no clue. If nothing else, it might make the world a tiny bit easier for people like me.

This article is SO TRUE. Also I have now requested the book mentioned from the library…

This one and the follow-up are also good, and I’m all for the introvert rights movement. Just another thing to add to my list: gender equality, sexual orientation equality, racial equality, religious equality…and dopamine-processing-method equality. Pluralism is a good thing, people.


Posted by on 9.8.2011 in Life


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4 responses to “I Love You, Please Shut Up

  1. Deborah the Closet Monster

    11.8.2011 at 12:11 am

    I’ve struggled to explain this to certain of my friends and family for years. No, the fact I’m an introvert does not mean I have some kind of social anxiety disorder. It means I need a lot of downtime to recharge before I can engage with others again. I love those engagements. I do. But they wear me down, and it perplexes me that so many people want to work out what’s wrong with me that I should be this way. I no longer engage in the conversation, but I do sometimes wish they’d read these articles . . . or, y’know, consider why I so dearly love my online interactions, which may be left and returned to without excusing, farewells or anything more than walking away without hurting someone’s feelings the moment I feel done.

    • Myriad

      11.8.2011 at 1:58 pm

      EXACTLY. I love spending time with friends and family, or talking excitedly about science to a large group of people, but beyond a certain point I just need a break. It would be so nice if people would understand that if they just let me have an hour of quiet now and again, I would be much more cheerful during the time I DO spend with them. And I completely agree about interacting online–it takes off a lot of the pressure. That’s something I’ve notice in my interactions with friends whom I would deem introverts. When we feel like stopping, we just do, and don’t take offense at the fact that the other person is tired.

  2. mitukagome

    12.8.2011 at 6:52 pm

    So shall I double my bajillion text messages that I send you every day?

    • Myriad

      12.8.2011 at 10:21 pm

      If you like. Text messages are a tolerable form of communication because I can feel free to ignore them, and I know you don’t take too much offense. Or I hope you don’t, at any rate…


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